My wife and I are sexually very active and my wife wants me to have sex with her at least once a week except during her days of haidh.
Now when she goes to her parents home without me, she ends up self-masturbating because I she is missing me.
I try to have video calls with her to help her out, but quite a few times as part of the conversation we are very much intimate with one another and she asks me to self-masturbate as she wants to see me have an orgasm.
Although I understand self-masturbation is forbidden, I would like to understand what is the ruling for video calls with spouse and what should I do in such situations.
primarily what should I do to stop myself and my wife from self-masturbating.
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Although it is permissible for a husband and wife to look at each other's bodies in private, but it is disliked to look at each other’s private parts.
According to the scholars, since a video call involves photography and depiction of living beings which in any case is illegal. Therefore, it is absolutely not permissible to be completely naked in a video call and then act unnaturally. This kind of act is also very harmful from a medical point of view.
In addition, there is also a chance of this act becoming exposed, because the video call, although apparently considered live, but its data is saved somewhere and sometimes this move could become a source of ruin and disgrace for both.
So, the solution is to either call the wife to you or go to your wife's house. If it is not possible to make this happen, then make arrangements to fast, so that these sinful desires can be controlled. Also make arrangements to stay in the company of religious elders so that the desires of lust and the psychological drivers towards sins are diverted.
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