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Question: Follow up on istikhara dream results

ID: 1863

Name: Marriage and Divorce

Question

You said not to delay getting married to the girl I mentioned in my istikhara dream who was my istikhara dream, but I have no job, but am in the process of looking for one after I receive physical therapy for a severe back injury. But now I might have caught covid 19 from my mother, and so it is delayed a week. it will take 4-6 weeks. i also have no car or driver's license, but if i marry i may have the excuse that driving is difficult due to a medication i take (an antipsychotic used for irritability from asperger's disorder, a milder form of autism). also, should i get a driver's license, or a house, or a job, which of these should i get? my childhood friend mentioned in the dream is working already, could i be a househusband? actually, my mother wanted me to apply for disability. also, i dont know if i should work from home or in person, as if i work from home i may be able to work as a data entry clerk. but my mother says to wait until my back heals for her to write the resume (I'm not good at writing resumes) and then apply. currently my mother is sick with covid 19 and i dont want to bother her further. please give guidance on this issue, preferably soon. 

Answer

 

بسم اللہ الرحمٰن الرحیم 

:الجواب ومنہ الصواب 

 

Regardless of the previous answer, as far as the above question is concerned:

Firstly, it should be kept in mind that there is no concept of disease itself being contagious in Islam. Disease is caused to a person by the Will of Allah (SWT) only, and not by being in close proximity of a sick person. 

Secondly, it should also be noted that at time of marriage, it is necessary to reveal one's condition and circumstances accurately and truthfully in front of the girl and her family. That kind of clarity ensures mutual trust, which is the basis of harmony and stability in the relationship.

Thirdly, Shari’ah has imposed the responsibility of wife's maintenance, i.e., food, clothing, housing, etc. on the husband, and the wife has the right to demand those maintenance requirements. 

Shari'ah also prefers that a man should select for his wife a woman who is from a humbler background than the husband in terms of wealth and family status so hopefully the wife will be more cooperative and polite in her behavior. So, it is better to choose a wife from that perspective.

Therefore, the overall advice for you is to strive to make yourself capable of paying the marriage expenses, dowry and eventual household needs and expenses. But if you are financially incapable to undertake these responsibilities, then it is not permissible for you to marry. 

But at the same time, it is not the teachings of Shari’ah to deny marriage simply due to the fear of financial shortcomings. Rather, if the marriage is carried out with good intentions, then through its blessings, Almighty Allah (SWT) will remove poverty and bestow wealth, prosperity, and suitable sustenance. 

Almighty Allah says:

وَأَنكِحُواْ ٱلۡأَيَٰمَىٰ مِنكُمۡ وَٱلصَّٰلِحِينَ مِنۡ عِبَادِكُمۡ وَإِمَآئِكُمۡۚ إِن يَكُونُواْ فُقَرَآءَ ‌يُغۡنِهِمُ ٱللَّهُ مِن فَضۡلِهِۦۗ وَٱللَّهُ وَٰسِعٌ عَلِيمٞ (النور:۳۲) 

 

It should also be noted that if you are fulfilling the conditions of unemployment allowance, then there is no harm in applying for it. 

Apart from this, if you have some free time along with discharging your religious duties and obligations of Islam, please try to find a legitimate source of income. 

Regarding the girl seen in your dream, don't just rely on the dreams, rather consult with the family for their advice and recommendation. If they approve of her, then keep in mind the attributes mentioned in the Ahadith regarding your prospective wife, which are useful both in terms of religious and the worldly matters. 

The girl should be virtuous, veil-observant, regular in her obligatory daily prayers, fasts in Ramadhan, and in addition,  she is loving, gentle in her temperament and is obedient. It is also good to know that she is from the family of women possessive of high fertility trait. The choice of wife should not be based on beauty, wealth and lineage, but should be based on the intention of chastity. Then, In-Shaa Allah, such a marriage will be a blessed one.

Although being a matrilocal husband is permissible, but it is against the husband’s honor and dignity. Sharia has made the husband responsible for his wife and her needs, not that the husband becomes a burden on the wife and her family, degrading his honor and respect under the burden of their favor. 

The Messenger of Allah, (may Allah bless him and grant him peace), said:

(صحیح بخاری: 5380) (لَا عَدْوَى، وَلَا طيَرة، وَلَا هَامَةَ وَلَا صَفَرَ وفرمِنَ الْمَجْذُومِ كَمَا تفرُّ من الأسد)

عن زید بن خالد الجهني قال: صلی بنا رسول الله ﷺ صلاة الصبح بالحدیبیة في أثر سماء کانت من اللیل، فلمّا انصرف أقبل علی الناس فقال: هل تدرون ماذا قال ربکم؟ قالوا: الله و رسوله أعلم! قال: قال: أصبح من عبادي مؤمن بي و کافر، فأمّا من قال: مُطِرْنا بفضل الله و رحمته فذلك مؤمن بي و کافر بالکوکب، و أمّا من قال:  مُطِرْنَا بنوء کذا و کذا، فذلك کافر بي مؤمن بالکوکب".(صحیح مسلم: ) 

’’ قال لنا رسول الله {صلى الله عليه وسلم} يا معشر الشباب من استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوج فإنه أغض للبصر وأحصن للفرج ومن لم يستطع فعليه بالصوم فإنه له وجاء ‘‘

’’ من تزوج امرأة بوأها منزلا وفيه حذف مضاف أي مؤنة الباءة من المهر والنفقة ...... إن حصلت لك مؤن النكاح تزوج وإلا فصم ‘‘(مرقاۃ  المفاتیح:۶؍۱۸۶) 

’’لان الشریفۃ تابی ان تکون فراشا للدنی، ولذا لا تعتبر من جانبھا لأن الزوج  مستفرش فلا تغیظہ دناء ۃ الفراش‘‘ (شامی:۴؍۱۴۸)

 

فقط واللہ اعلم بالصواب

مفتی محمد فضیل الرحمٰن اُسید

تصحیح: مفتی محمد رئیس منہاج الدین قاسمی

تصحیح: مفتی محمد عطاء الرحمن ساجد

                

 

 

 

 

 

     

Answered On: Thursday, Jan 25, 2024 | N/A

Answered By: Mufti Mohammed Ataur Rahman Sajid

Checked By: Mufti Mohammed Navalur Rahman